There I was, sweat steadily dripping from my face onto my sweatshirt, exhausted, hands on my knees, breathing heavy and at the point where I wanted to shut off the DVD and go back to my comfort zone of lifting heavy. I was at the 12 minute mark of my first Insanity Max 30 workout, and I was completely spent. There was nothing left in the tank. I hit pause, trying to catch my breath, and couldn’t stop thinking about what it would mean if I just quit right then. What would that say about me? I have never given up on anything in my entire life, why would I give up on a 30 minute workout? I didn’t, so I clicked play and kept pushing myself until the entire 30 minutes was up. It wasn’t pretty, but I got it done. After the workout, as I was sipping on my Shakeology for recovery, my mind started racing thinking about the hundreds of times I could have given up, but never did, and how it’s a major reason why I’ve achieved so much in my 29 years of life. If you look at anyone who’s been successful in anything, they are where they are today because they haven’t given up. When they struggle, they keep going. When they fail, they keep going. When everything seems stacked against them, they keep going. Now I want to give you some specific examples of why you should never give up on yourself.
I want to take you back in time for a minute. I was 15 years old, playing travel baseball over summer vacation, and we were playing a double header on a hot, sunny day. For some reason, I was struggling terribly during this summer, and it kept messing with my confidence. During the first at bat of the first game, I whiffed 3 times and struck out. I got pissed off at myself, went back to the bench, thought about what I was doing wrong, and just got more frustrated. Was it my mechanics? Was the pitcher really that good? I couldn’t find a solution, but when I went up to the next at bat, all I could think about was the previous at bat and not making contact once. Any guesses what happened? Yeah, I struck out again, and it happened about 4 more times during the day. That was it, I was benched for the first time in my life. I’ll never forget that terrible feeling, knowing that my attitude and confidence was what brought my summer season crashing down. I felt like someone ran up to me, punched me in the gut, and then pointed and laughed at me. Nobody wants to sit on the bench and watch others play, so it completely destroyed me. Baseball was my life, what the hell was I going to do now? I went straight up to my room after the game, shut the door, and just sat on the floor in front of my bed, thinking about a solution. Was there one? Should I quit baseball? I sure as hell don’t want to sit on the bench for the rest of the summer. I knew I should be the one playing, I worked my ass off for it, how was I going to get the coach to have confidence in me again? That’s when my dad walked into my room, threw a personal development book on my bed called “The Magic of Thinking Big” and told me to read it.
Perfect timing. The solution was right there in the book. What was it? That I needed to accept my failure, stop worrying about it, believe in myself and figure out what adjustment I needed to make so that I could get back out there on the field. The past is the past, let go of it and move forward, so that’s what I did. After that I worked harder than I ever had before and slowly began believing in myself again. Even though I was benched for the remainder of the season, I was determined to come back and kick ass that next year, so that’s exactly what I did. That next summer season I ended up having one of the best summers of baseball in my entire life. I took that mentality and applied it to every season after that, and not only did I end up getting a scholarship to play in college, I wound up receiving conference, regional, and national honors my junior and senior years.
Fast forward to 2008. My life was a freakin’ mess at that point. I was working a career that I thought I would enjoy, but ended up completely hating, I was out of shape, my confidence was in the gutter, and I was drinking just about every night. Needless to say, I was at an all time low in my life. Not my proudest moment, but it happened and is now part of my story. Anyways, I could have continued doing what I was doing, getting the same results, falling even more out of shape, drowning myself in the crap that was going on, or I could do something about it and change. Giving up on myself was never an option, so I did something about it. I started P90X, stopped drinking, lost 25 lbs, got into the best shape of my entire life, increased my confidence, and eventually became a Beachbody Coach because I fell in love with health and fitness and helping others achieve results like I did. I had no idea that this little side thing I did for fun would eventually become my full time career, but it was a tough journey to get to that point.
I stopped getting paid at my financial advising job because I missed my quota one month, and with the way the pay was set-up, you have to make up for the missed amount from the previous month and reach the quota for the current month as well. Yeah, that didn’t happen, so for months on end I was working my job that I hated and didn’t get paid doing it. Sounds awesome, right? After not getting paid for 5 months (yes, 5 months), I decided to quit and work part time with my dad and part time on Beachbody to try to turn it into a legit business. Starting your own business is tough, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. And then you put yourself in my position, a young 22 year old guy who had no prior success in business, and it’s nearly impossible to get things going. What was I supposed to do? I had no idea, and I failed over and over and over again, so much that I had to laugh when it happened, but I never stopped. I kept chugging along, making adjustments, because I was determined to be successful. No matter what obstacle, what objection, what failure, was thrown my way, I was a train that was slowly moving, just waiting to gain momentum. Things were bad for me financially too. On top of my business struggles, my now wife and I were living in a one bedroom apartment that we could barely afford, sleeping on the couch so our daughter could sleep in our only room, and were struggling to pay our bills. It was normal for us to have $50 in our bank account at a time, and at one point government support was the only way to keep us afloat. Most people would just give up, but that’s not how I’m geared. After over a year of failing miserably, things started to turn around.
The latter part of 2009 is when I had my first “ah ha!” moment, and I was beginning to figure out how to become a successful Beachbody Coach. In the beginning of 2010, I decided to make Coaching my full time career (it was risky, but I had faith in myself), and that was the year that changed my life and my business. I ended up winning the Top Beachbody Coach award out of over 50,000+ Coaches, and quadrupled my income. I was helping well over 100 people a week make a change in their life and building a success team at the same time. Fast forward to today, we are one of the largest and most successful teams in Team Beachbody. We have won 3 Top Coach belts, have 3 people in the Millionaire’s Club (me included), and have well over 10,000 Coaches on the team. My wife and I have paid off all of our debt and are living a life of freedom. We haven’t worried about paying bills for 5 years now, and can do what we want, when we want. We also can give back more to those in need, and there is nothing better than that.
I have achieved all the success I have today because I have never given up. When most people would quit, I keep going. Nothing is going to stop me. I’ve failed and struggled more times than you could ever imagine, but I’ve always believed that I could accomplish incredible things, so I’ve worked my tail off to make it happen, and I have. If you are struggling with life, maybe it’s with your weight, finances, or career, take a look in the mirror. If you can look at the person staring back and feel confident that you are doing everything you possibly can to take yourself out of your current situation, then you’re doing the right things. However, most of you can’t. Too many people give up at the first sign up struggle, when things get tough, at the first failure. Success isn’t easy. It’s hard, very hard. You will never find success and easy in the same sentence, other than this one. If you have given up way too early, the great thing is that you can always try again. This time, though, commit yourself and never stop. If you can push through all those rough times you will experience in the beginning, you have no idea of the success waiting for you!