If you don’t know me, the first thing you need to know is that I’m about as straightforward as it comes. I don’t mind telling people how it is, but it’s not because I’m trying to be an asshole. Rather, I know that in order to help people move forward I have to tell them what they need to hear, not what they want to hear. In my opinion, if I’m not that way then I’m doing them a disservice. It’s either that or let them continue being stuck in life. Sure, people might get pissed at me right away, but eventually they understand that in the end I’m just trying to help them out. If that’s what has to happen to help people change then so be it. I’m tough and can deal with people not liking me. When it comes to excuses, I have no tolerance for them. Quite frankly, I hate excuses. I don’t care what it is, whether it’s a time or money issue, give me an excuse and I will quickly prove that the excuse is not valid. Below I’m going to explain why I live excuse free, give personal examples of how I overcame certain obstacles, and how you can stop the bullshit excuses yourself.
First, let me give you my definition of an excuse. This is the one I came up with that is in the book I’m releasing called “Just Man Up.” Excuses are illegitimate reasons people create for why they can’t do something or failed with something just to make themselves feel better for giving up or never taking action in the first place. Oh shit, did that possibly piss you off? Good, let’s get those emotions stirring. Like it or not, it’s the truth. Once you realize that, then you can begin to change your life around. Keep making excuses, keep sitting stagnant in your current position. The choice is yours.
Ask anyone I know, they will tell you they have never heard me make an excuse within the past 15 years. I just don’t do it. I’m not saying that I never did it because that would be a straight up lie, but after the age of 15 I have lived excuse free. Before 15 I was a kid that found any way possible to justify why I struggled or failed at something. Couldn’t do conditioning? It was my asthma. Couldn’t make friends? It was my personality. Hell, I could go on and on. Then my dad introduced a book into my life that changed it all. It was “The Magic of Thinking Big” by David Schwartz. I read it and haven’t made an excuse since. It’s no surprise why I’m in incredible shape, have had so much success with business, and have an excellent relationship with my wife and kids. No excuses on my part. I take ownership of everything and just make shit happen.
I love it when people tell me they don’t have time. Maybe it’s for starting a business or changing their health, but they repeat “I don’t have the time” over and over to me until my ears bleed. It’s ironic, especially when it comes to starting a business, because if they don’t have the time, isn’t that more reason to start? Everyone wants time freedom. If you say you don’t you’re lying. But not having time is an excuse. Ultimately, if you want something bad enough, whether you’re busy or not, you are going to find the time. If you don’t, you don’t want it bad enough. It’s as simple as that. Back in 2008 when I started my fitness program because of being out of shape, I was working 16 hours a day sometimes more. I didn’t have a ton of time to work out, but you better believe that I somehow found an hour every single day to fit in my workout. It didn’t matter if it was 1 A.M., I didn’t skip a workout for 90 days straight. I was rewarded for it and got into the best shape of my life. When I started my business, I was still working 16 hours a day with my full time career. I didn’t have a ton of time to work a side business, but I found the time so that eventually I could get to the point where I could quit my job and become financially independent and secure. Sometimes that meant I was working my business until 2 A.M., but I never used time as an excuse. No matter how busy you are, if you truly want to change you will find the time.
This is my favorite excuse. When people say “I don’t have the money” I get this big ass grin on my face because I know I’m about to give them a big dose of reality. The expression on their faces after I share my story is always priceless! Later in 2008 I ended up quitting my job and started working part-time for my dad. I was still working hard on building my side business, but I was failing miserably and couldn’t make enough money to support my wife and daughter. In 2009 things got so bad that we could barely afford our rent and were living with just about $50-$100 in our account at a time. My wife got on government support to help our family out. We had to. There just wasn’t any other choice. I can tell you, though, that there is nothing worse than knowing you can’t properly support your family. As a man, it’s a giant kick in the nuts. I constantly had this guilt and pit in my stomach that I couldn’t shake. However, instead of dwelling on it, I did something about it. No matter how shitty our financial situation was, I had to find the money to invest in my side business to get us out of the situation. I had to find the money to travel to events, to invest in trainings, to purchase certain products, and I did. If that meant selling stuff on eBay, that’s what I did. If that meant purchasing our groceries in bulk to save a few bucks here and there, that’s what I did. I did whatever was necessary because getting our family out of that situation was a priority. If you really want to afford something, there are about a million different ways for you to do so. Sometimes you have to be creative, but there are so many ways to make money. By saying “I don’t have the money,” you’re being incredibly narrow minded and lazy. In the end, it’s just an excuse.
Once you can get out of your own way and stop the excuses, only then can you move forward in life. Get into the habit of stopping yourself when you start to make an excuse. Unfortunately, because so many people make excuses so often, they’ve developed a habit of doing so and it takes a lot more effort to stop. You’ve got to completely control your mindset and be conscious about who’s really to blame for your lack of success and struggles. In the end, it’s the person staring back in the mirror. Work your way towards an excuse free life and you’re going to be surprised with just how much progress you make in a short amount of time. Stop the bullshit excuses.